When going through all my
assignments I realized I forgot to publish this post upon returning from break.
They say better late than never.
Throughout high school, I had good
relationships with my classmates and teachers. Socially it helped for me to be
involved in sports, because from them I grew relationships with my peers. I
think I treated most of them with respect, at least at first, and I did not
have a problem having conversations with anyone. As far as high school drama, I
was pretty Switzerland and managed to stay out of it, mostly. Like most other U
of I students, I excelled in high school. I did not mind sharing answers to
homework and did so frequently.
Though I did share answers to
homework, I never gave answers on quizzes or tests. I stayed after school to
talk to my teachers every day before practice so they got to know me personally.
Showing interest in the material usually got me into their good graces without
coming into class with apples for them. Participating in class, again, showed
interest in the material no matter how boring it was. However, I was not the
most obedient student, and often I would read for pleasure, talk, or do
assignments for other classes, while the teacher was talking or while the room
was supposed to be quiet. I am sure my teachers did not like my behavior all
the time, but most times they overlooked it if I wasn’t disrupting the classroom.
Perhaps my teachers were disappointed with what I was doing, but when compared
to my classmates who did not seem to care whether they were a disruption or
not, my behavior was often excused.
Above all else, I made sure I told
the truth as much as possible, whether it would put me in trouble or not. When
I did gossip, I told one story with facts that did not change, though the
details were sometimes exaggerated. When my teacher asked if I was talking, and
I was, I admitted it. If I wasn’t, I would say that I was not, but no matter
how much they pried, I would never say who was talking. When confronted, I told
the truth, but I was not always transparent and honest. Most times I did not
feel like I was cashing in with my social capital, but my reputations with
others certainly placed me in favorable positions.
One day, in my Engineering class
while we were testing CO2 cars, Adam, a friend of mine, and me argued about
whose car would have the faster time. Adam tended to be disruptive in our
normal class periods. My teacher, Mrs. Ellis had one rule that she strictly
enforced; we could not curse in her class. Adam and I are passionate people, to
say the least, and while we were arguing Adam cursed first, though I do not
remember what he said. Mrs. Ellis had been setting up CO2 cars, and did not
respond to what was said. I had been responding, but I had not cursed until I
said, “My car is going to beat the crap out of yours, man.” I did not say crap
or man. At which point, Adam made sure to bring this to my teacher’s attention,
saying something to the tune of her favorite student cursed. At first, Mrs.
Ellis turned and asked my classmates for confirmation, but they said they did
not know. It was an obvious lie. I am going to simulate the conversation using
quotes for simplicity and flow, but I do not remember exact quotes. She had
pulled me aside for this.
“Your friend says that you cursed.
Is that true?”
“True that he said I cursed or true
that I cursed?”
“That you cursed.”
“Yes, I did. Once.”
“I heard two from you. You know I
don’t allow that other word in my class.”
“I don’t think you’re at liberty to
govern where that word should be used, but I did curse still.”
“Did Adam curse?”
“I’m not at liberty to say. You
would probably know better than me.”
“Ok. Come see me after class.”
It seemed like I got in trouble to
my peers. I stayed for a few minutes after class and there was no consequence. She
told me not to do it again. The normal punishment for my behavior was a
detention. In hindsight, there is no way she did not hear what was said, from
either of us, but somehow, we both were not disciplined. The next day, Adam and
another student were cursing and they both got detentions. This happened a few
other times that school year. I continued to have a good relationship with my
teacher, Adam, and the rest of my classmates. I’m not sure how many situations
there are where a relationship is totally cashed in. The idea seems movie-like.
However, one thing I learned was that telling the truth and standing your
ground is powerful.